Dating a bad boy

I was listening to John Mayer the other day thanks Spotify for the random playlists that really just get me , and I thought, "I don't care how many Hollywood broads he's bedded -- this guy's voice is dreamy. Then I acknowledged the fact that yes, this is a guy I would have been drawn to in my 20s: an edgy bad boy who would have given me just enough attention to leave me wanting more. I loathe the term associated with that scene, "daddy issues. All with a sprinkle of condescension and unkindness. I used to use the term daddy issues myself, back when I was in the self-loathing zone.

Even though we know we should avoid it, the bad-boy charm is sometimes impossible to resist. But rather than telling you to stay away, we're arming you with everything you need to know to navigate their world like a pro. Are you a repeat offender? If you find you're always dating a guy who makes you feel paranoid, insecure or just plain bad, it might be time to take an honest look within. Bad boys can be a lot of fun, but they're usually not the best pick for a functional long-term relationship, so if you find yourself repeatedly going back for more, you may want to do a little soul-searching. If you're addicted to the emotional roller coaster, it's time to detox and learn to get your thrills elsewhere.

I recently came across a photo of a sexy Brazilian man I had an affair with a few years ago. OK, I Googled him. When I saw his sly smile and unruly black hair, I couldn't help thinking that, by comparison, my live-in boyfriend wasn't quite as darkly seductive or exciting. I met the Brazilian in line for a film screening while visiting Manhattan from San Francisco.

Bad boys are charismatic, confident and mysterious. They want a woman who can hold her own and take care of herself. Dress sexy, have fun and enjoy the ride. While bad boys prefer the pool hall, they are not shy about pulling out all the stops and taking their date to the best restaurant in town.